Welcome to my home page! Question -- Why be owned and not state who owns you? Plus, why not indicate that you are owned? I am proud to be owned by my Master -- Bob

I'm Bartenderette and Mara~{@

I am SOI's resident bartender of course. I have been an SOI citizen since August, 1996.
I am a New Englander who has a very compassionate heart and generous soul. I love to meet new people and to serve. If there is a way I can help someone, I will.

I look forward to meeting you and not being strangers any more!

My rooms are What's Up and BreakAway Cafe and Sexy and Boe's Hooters

I'm owned and operated by Me

"All whispers and mailroom messages are subject to examination by Me"

Only my submissive will kiss My boots. Do NOT kiss My boots. If something seems OFF to you, please mail me and ask, do not engage me in the room with questions that are inquiring about my relationships. This includes collars, Masters and pets. Thank Y/you.

My Harley-Davidson Passion

I've even built my own Harley:
1958 Panhead and Me
The beauty I put my blood, sweat and tears in:
The 1945 Flathead I built
And now, 2008 had me impulsively beginning my Biking Journey again:
Harley Collage 1979 FLH 1200 Electraglide
I love Jeeps, have had them all my Licensing LIFE:
My Jeep Commander

In Memory of my Scrap, RIP 12/30/2010
Mega million moments of laughter and love

This IS my idea of A Good Master

This is what I seek!!
And He says.....

Why Am I a Master?
~This position is currently vacant, as I do not believe it exists, however I seek my Good Master~

Why am I a master? Why do I want to own someone?
What is it that makes me want to control her entire life, dictating rules, overseeing and approving her every action?

Well, here's the secret: most men want to dominate, to master, because they are insecure. They want to control their environment. They want to control anything and everything that affects their lives. They want to be sure that what they have today they will also have tomorrow.

Wait a minute you say, isn't it about sex? Don't men want to have a willing woman available any time, day or night?
Sure, any man who denies it is lying, but there's more to it. Yes he does want to find you there whenever he rolls over in bed in the middle of the night, but he also wants to know you will be there tomorrow, and the next day, and the next.

He wants you to be the friend who's always there, the one he can share his secrets with, the one he can trust. Yes, trust; surprised? You hear so much about how a good submissive builds trust in her master, but you don't think about the rest of it. He has to trust you as well, trust that you will keep his secrets, trust that you will be there for him, trust that you won't walk out or turn on him.

It goes back to that basic insecurity. He wants a woman he can spend a lifetime with, but he has that craving for control, to make sure everything is done his way. Who can best answer that need? Someone who loves him, is devoted to him, wants to serve him, take care of him, but also someone who will obey him, defer to his judgment, be it right or wrong, someone who can allow herself to become dependent on him. What type of woman would best be suited to a role like that?

The answer is obvious: a deeply submissive woman. You choose to submit to your master. Why you choose to submit is another topic, but you submit knowing that it means you accept his unrestricted authority over your lives. Is it what he really wants? Yes, and don't ever doubt it. Your submission is like a powerful narcotic drug to him.
The more he gets from you, the more he wants. It draws him to you, an attraction more powerful than you can imagine.

As a submissive it must seem that you take all the risks. You give him everything, yet he could abandon you on a whim. Reality is far different. The more you draw him in, the more power you give to him through your submission, the more he will desire you. Can you walk away from him on a whim? No? Well, he can't either. You are fulfilling dreams he has had since childhood. He would no more abandon you than he would cut off his arm. Remember this: just as his dominance holds you to him, so your submission holds him to you.

To me, domination is not about what I actually do, but the potentials, what I could do if I wished. If I were so inclined I could order my submissive to crawl on the floor barking like a dog. Am I going to do that? No, it would be silly. But I know I have the ability to make her do that if I wanted it.

See the distinction? That's why your master isn't some kind of abusive monster. He doesn't need to prove he's in charge by issuing a constant stream of orders and rules, to put you through some degrading or humiliating scene.

Rather he sees, from how you obey him, that his power over you is there anytime he wants it.

~Author Unknown~

I am me, belonging to none....

for I am responsible for my own happiness, I seek happiness only within me FIRST.

I am a damn great challenge....seek me NOT if You are weak minded or NEED EGO building, thus Kodiak CAN handle me and does with Love, care, kindness and discipline.............

Learn from Eckart Tolle:

From Addictive to Enlightened Relationships

Whether you are living alone or with a partner, this remains the key: being present and intensifying your presence by taking your attention ever more deeply into the Now.

For love to flourish, the light of your presence needs to be strong enough so that you no longer get taken over by the thinker or the pain-body and mistake them for who you are.

To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.

To disidentify from the pain-body is to bring presence into the pain and thus transmute it. To disidentify from thinking is to be the silent watcher of your thoughts and behavior, especially the repetitive patterns of your mind and the roles played by the ego.

If you stop investing it with �selfness,� the mind loses its compulsive quality, which basically is the compulsion to judge, and so to resist what is, which creates conflict, drama, and new pain. In fact, the moment that judgment stops through acceptance of what is, you are free of the mind. You have made room for love, for joy, for peace.

First you stop judging yourself; then you stop judging your partner. The greatest catalyst for change in a relationship is complete acceptance of your partner as he or she is, without needing to judge or change them in any way.

That immediately takes you beyond ego. All mind games and all addictive clinging are then over. There are no victims and no perpetrators anymore, no accuser and accused.

This is also the end of all codependency, of being drawn into somebody else�s unconscious pattern and thereby enabling it to continue. You will then either separate � in love � or move ever more deeply into the Now together, into Being. Can it be that simple? Yes, it is that simple.

Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form.

In the stillness of your presence, you can feel your own formless and timeless reality as the unmanifested life that animates your physical form. You can then feel the same life deep within every other human and every other creature. You look beyond the veil of form and separation. This is the realization of oneness. This is love.

Although brief glimpses are possible, love cannot flourish unless you are permanently free of mind identification and your presence is intense enough to have dissolved the pain-body � or you can at least remain present as the watcher. The pain-body cannot then take you over and so become destructive of love.

Peace out.