Welcome to my home page! I'm Bartenderette{I}, QueenMara~{@, Mara~{@ and ~{@Mara{I} I am SOI's resident bartender of course. I have been an SOI citizen since August, 1996. I am a New Englander who has a very compassionate heart and generous soul. I love to meet new people and to serve. If there is a way I can help someone, I will. I look forward to meeting you and not being strangers any more! My rooms are What's Up and BreakAway Cafe and Sexy and Boe's Hooters I'm owned and operated by Master Ironhand Master Ironhand / Snarl has owned me since January 13, 2012, (Friday the 13th) and I've worn his collar since January 19, 2012. He's my best master ever. I'm his slave Queen Mara. I submit to no one other than him and play with no one else without his explicit permission. Master Ironhand loves me and takes care of me with all of his ability and effort. I love him and will for decades and decades. We celebrate our union on the 13th of every month and really blow out the walls on each Friday the 13th. He may even allow me to scene with others, but you must ask him directly. This is a hard and fast rule which I don't break -- ever. Please don't whisper to me if I'm engaged in a scene, a serve or conversation. But please enter the room and speak to me. I don't bite and neither does Master Ironhand. Together with our Shalane{I&B}, we operate the Shelter Basement for Citizens, z2ctzn. Please stop in and see us any time there. If we're not in residence at the moment, please feel free to use the room as you would use z2 (prime). Our home is, literally, your home. Please feel welcome. Together, we own and operate Shalane{I&B} / petslut{I&B} lanie, short for Shalane, is our beloved petslut. She's simply the best pet evv-aahhhh. She serves us with utter devotion, dignity and love. We happily give her these things in return. petslut{I&B}'s home page. My Harley-Davidson Passion I've even built my own Harley: 1958 Panhead and Me The beauty I put my blood, sweat and tears in: The 1945 Flathead I built And now, 2008 had me impulsively beginning my Biking Journey again: Harley Collage 1979 FLH 1200 Electraglide I love Jeeps, have had them all my Licensing LIFE: My Jeep Commander In Memory of my Scrap, RIP 12/30/2010 Mega million moments of laughter and love , Ironhand is my Good Master Why Am I a Master? Why am I a master? Why do I want to own someone? What is it that makes me want to control her entire life, dictating rules, overseeing and approving her every action? Well, here's the secret: most men want to dominate, to master, because they are insecure. They want to control their environment. They want to control anything and everything that affects their lives. They want to be sure that what they have today they will also have tomorrow. Wait a minute you say, isn't it about sex? Don't men want to have a willing woman available any time, day or night? Sure, any man who denies it is lying, but there's more to it. Yes he does want to find you there whenever he rolls over in bed in the middle of the night, but he also wants to know you will be there tomorrow, and the next day, and the next. He wants you to be the friend who's always there, the one he can share his secrets with, the one he can trust. Yes, trust; surprised? You hear so much about how a good submissive builds trust in her master, but you don't think about the rest of it. He has to trust you as well, trust that you will keep his secrets, trust that you will be there for him, trust that you won't walk out or turn on him. It goes back to that basic insecurity. He wants a woman he can spend a lifetime with, but he has that craving for control, to make sure everything is done his way. Who can best answer that need? Someone who loves him, is devoted to him, wants to serve him, take care of him, but also someone who will obey him, defer to his judgment, be it right or wrong, someone who can allow herself to become dependent on him. What type of woman would best be suited to a role like that? The answer is obvious: a deeply submissive woman. You choose to submit to your master. Why you choose to submit is another topic, but you submit knowing that it means you accept his unrestricted authority over your lives. Is it what he really wants? Yes, and don't ever doubt it. Your submission is like a powerful narcotic drug to him. The more he gets from you, the more he wants. It draws him to you, an attraction more powerful than you can imagine. As a submissive it must seem that you take all the risks. You give him everything, yet he could abandon you on a whim. Reality is far different. The more you draw him in, the more power you give to him through your submission, the more he will desire you. Can you walk away from him on a whim? No? Well, he can't either. You are fulfilling dreams he has had since childhood. He would no more abandon you than he would cut off his arm. Remember this: just as his dominance holds you to him, so your submission holds him to you. To me, domination is not about what I actually do, but the potentials, what I could do if I wished. If I were so inclined I could order my submissive to crawl on the floor barking like a dog. Am I going to do that? No, it would be silly. But I know I have the ability to make her do that if I wanted it. See the distinction? That's why your master isn't some kind of abusive monster. He doesn't need to prove he's in charge by issuing a constant stream of orders and rules, to put you through some degrading or humiliating scene. Rather he sees, from how you obey him, that his power over you is there anytime he wants it. ~Author Unknown~